My theories of Love
The Theory of Everything is an inspirational film. It inspires you to never allow anything to bog you down in your endeavors. But, the film is not so much about science as it is about love.
The Theory of Everything helped prove some of my own theories. On love and relationships. Not that I have ANY credentials whatsoever to be commenting on love but here goes:
1) Love* triumphs everything.
If you love each other, nothing can come in the way. Not poverty, not alcoholism, not distance, not personality differences, not physical disability, nothing. We fool ourselves in blaming such things for our break-ups. My theory is that the reason for wanting a break-up is simply an inadequate give and take of love. Because mutual love can triumph over any issue.
2) Love* just happens. Hence, it is effortless.
You can not decide to love someone. Neither can you instruct someone to love you. My theory is that love* is inevitable and is effortless. (spoiler alert) We did not see Hawking's girlfriend doubt her choice even after she knew of the deadliness of his disease. And again, the other time when she had to decide whether to keep him alive. My theory is that it is love when you find putting in that effort, effortless.
3) Change is inevitable.
Things change with time but love* never goes away. If it goes away, my theory is that, there never was love. You just thought there was. But where there is love*, change causes people to succumb to affairs or even fall in love with other people. But my theory is that two people who have loved each other are always together... even if they are no longer together.
4) Dishonesty is the opposite of love*
Every relationship is faced with unpleasant truths sooner or later. However, the truth alone can salvage love. Nothing damages love like dishonesty. My theory is that love* can be salvaged anytime with the truth, no matter how bitter it may be. Love can be salvaged, not necessarily the relationship. But love without the relationship is better than a loveless relationship.
*Love: To me, love is deep mutual respect (in addition to that indescribable high we are all familiar with)
That is why, a believer of God and an atheist can love each other. My theory about what Love is, is that it is the ability to respect and root for the dreams and aspirations of the other, no matter how contradictory to yours they may be. And you root for them whether or not you are still together. And this happens effortlessly.
Ok, all this talk about love is making me sick. ;p That's all folks! :)
The Theory of Everything helped prove some of my own theories. On love and relationships. Not that I have ANY credentials whatsoever to be commenting on love but here goes:
1) Love* triumphs everything.
If you love each other, nothing can come in the way. Not poverty, not alcoholism, not distance, not personality differences, not physical disability, nothing. We fool ourselves in blaming such things for our break-ups. My theory is that the reason for wanting a break-up is simply an inadequate give and take of love. Because mutual love can triumph over any issue.
2) Love* just happens. Hence, it is effortless.
You can not decide to love someone. Neither can you instruct someone to love you. My theory is that love* is inevitable and is effortless. (spoiler alert) We did not see Hawking's girlfriend doubt her choice even after she knew of the deadliness of his disease. And again, the other time when she had to decide whether to keep him alive. My theory is that it is love when you find putting in that effort, effortless.
3) Change is inevitable.
Things change with time but love* never goes away. If it goes away, my theory is that, there never was love. You just thought there was. But where there is love*, change causes people to succumb to affairs or even fall in love with other people. But my theory is that two people who have loved each other are always together... even if they are no longer together.
4) Dishonesty is the opposite of love*
Every relationship is faced with unpleasant truths sooner or later. However, the truth alone can salvage love. Nothing damages love like dishonesty. My theory is that love* can be salvaged anytime with the truth, no matter how bitter it may be. Love can be salvaged, not necessarily the relationship. But love without the relationship is better than a loveless relationship.
*Love: To me, love is deep mutual respect (in addition to that indescribable high we are all familiar with)
That is why, a believer of God and an atheist can love each other. My theory about what Love is, is that it is the ability to respect and root for the dreams and aspirations of the other, no matter how contradictory to yours they may be. And you root for them whether or not you are still together. And this happens effortlessly.
Ok, all this talk about love is making me sick. ;p That's all folks! :)
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